How often have you ended up in a “situationship” or an “entanglement” with a man because you have too soon forgotten who you are? Today, I want to remind you how precious you are, valuable, and loved. Jeremiah 1:5 says,
Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.
First you need to know that God knows who you are from the beginning, from before you came into physical reality.
His DNA is already programed inside of you. Genesis 1:26 & 27 says,
Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness,” so God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them.
That is why worship is deeply embedded in the heart of man, because we were created in the similitude of God. Mankind today has been and will always continue to be on a desperately seek of someone or something to worship. Why? Because God placed an imprint of Himself in us and only He fits the mold of that space. But because we can feel that hollow place, we search and sometimes unsuccessfully try to fill it with whoever and whatever until we surrender to the only fulfilling love on the planet, Jesus Christ.
You will never be satisfied when you go from one relationship to another. No earthly man can fill the space God made for himself inside of you.
The curse of Eve says that woman will desire her man, but he will lord it over her, meaning she will be in an abusive relationship. Maybe you’re in an abusive relationship because your desire is to be loved, but your partner is ruling over you.
The promise and blessing of God is this: Your husband will love you like Christ loves the Church and gave Himself for her. Instead of succumbing to narcissistic behavior, the promise God gives you in marriage is that your man will cover you, being ever so patient with you, washing you in the water of the word of God. This man is praying man that presents you in prayer before God without finding fault but to find out how to honor and protect the precious gift he’s been given. This is my testimony.
I witnessed narcissistic and abusive behavior growing up. I’ve also witnessed how difficult it is to leave those types of situations in a covenant relationship.
I’m no stranger to it. But I remembered who I am. I am a queen; I am priceless, above rubies, a treasure in an earthly vessel by the power of God. And so are you. Be careful of whom you deem worthy of the precious gifts you bestow. When you remember who you are, you will stop putting up ill treatment from others.
Do you know who you are? Or have you forgotten?
A simple way to recall your identity when you need it most is to become a student of the Word of God and prayer.
When prayer and the Word have a baby, that’s called a declaration. Declarations are powerful prayers that speak God’s Word back to Him. And thank God, He is a man of His Word! It will not bounce back to you unfulfilled or void of it’s promise. Inside Divine Destiny, my course bundle, I teach my 3-part method, Clarify, Connect, Control to affirm your worth so you can remember who you are in compromising dating situations. You will learn to clarify your dating goals and properly use declarations to also connect with God’s voice and control your dating boundaries. To get a taste of what I offer, click here to try out my free Clarify, Connect, Control Habit Tracker to use as an accountability tool.
You are a queen. You deserve to be treated as such. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. And you should know that fully well. (See Psalm 139:14)
You may be holding on to curses spoken over you from childhood to adulthood – such as how ugly they said you were, or how they said you would never amount to anything. But I challenge you to dig deep and remember those good times in your life, remember the positive accolades you got when you did well. Remember the words of prophecy spoken over your life at the moment you needed it most. Remember what you’re passionate about. Revisit your hobbies and turn them into a business. Rise up and believe in your dreams again. Remember who you are to God. You are more than a conqueror. You are royal and prestigious, from a holy nation of Priests, Priestesses, Kings, and Queens (1 Pet 2:9). You are gold that’s been tried in the furnace, there’s nothing you can’t weather (1 Pet 1:7). With God’s help, there’s nothing that can overthrow you (Is 59:19). You are an overcomer (1 John 4:4). You are more than a conqueror (Rom 8:37). You are more than enough (Ex 36:5, 2 Cor 9:8).
Remember who you are and walk in your calling, blessed and highly favored woman of God. Birth that ministry. Watch God turn things in your favor once you surrender completely to Him. Watch God send you that godly husband. If you will hearken and obey His voice today, you will eat the good of the land (Isaiah 1:19). Do you know what that means? It means the rest of your life will be a good life. Yes you may have had a rough beginning and a terrible middle, but the Lord is turning the next page of your life and declaring it a great ending, a happy, blessed, and prosperous one. Remember who you are, but more importantly Whose you are. You are not your own, your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost (1 Cor 6:19-20), how could you let someone abuse your temple? It belongs to God. It’s for God’s good pleasure. Sanctify yourself and wait for the promise of Isaac. Let Ismael go on about his business, because he’s nothing but trouble. Believe me dear heart. It’s what I know, not what I heard.
I decree the blessing of God over your life today.
No more will you run to and fro looking for love in all the wrong places. Your Maker is your husband (Is 54:5-8) until He sends you the one. The Lord of hosts is His name. I command you to be divorced from every evil spirit spouse right now in the name of Jesus. I call your spirit to bear witness with the Holy Ghost who will bring to your remembrance your identity in Christ. May you remember you are the bride of Christ. May you remember in dire and desperate times, you are a daughter of destiny, destined to become the precious jewel from God to the man He sends to you. May the fire on your altar of devotion never burn out. May your oil of gladness burn till the coming of the Bridegroom Jesus Christ. If you have children, may they rise and call you blessed at the remembrance of who you are. May everyone in your community know how virtuous you are. May your well of influence, affluence, prosperity, and money-making ideas never run dry. May you receive international income from multiple sources. May your future husband call you blessed and receive the favor of God on his life because of you. Remember who you are, Precious Jewel, Queen. (See Prov 31:10-31)
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There’s so much more God has for you. Don’t settle for less than you deserve in a relationship. Remember who you are.